Have you ever desired something so much, prayed, and cried for it to happen but find yourself disappointed with unfulfilled desires?
We all desire something, whether that be a significant other, good health, a baby, a home, comfortable finances, a job, friendships, and there’s much more many of us desire.
As you read this, I encourage you to not compare your life to mine, your friends, or others.
Desiring to feel wanted, loved, understood, listened to, taken care of, healthy, responsible- it is all natural.
But are we putting all our value and worth in what we desire?
I have so badly desired some things in my life that I find myself angry, crushed, or disappointed when God doesn’t answer my prayers the way I think they should be answered.
God hears us, and He knows our hearts. He understands us better than we understand ourselves. Interesting thought there- isn’t it?
At times when I did not see my desires fulfilled I began to question God, question who I am, and question my purpose. (If/when you go through this: this is an important time to do studies on who God says we are as His creation, on who God says He is, and on our purpose in life.)
Let’s talk about control. I don’t know about you but I struggle with not having control! But sometimes I don’t take control of what I can. For example, I can control my response to my circumstances, my attitude, the environment I put myself in, my heart of thanksgiving or lack there of.
What I cannot control- I cannot control other people, other people’s responses, or God’s will. My mom said something good- “I cannot control the harvest but I can control the planting and tending. God brings the increase, and sometimes it’s different than we expect.”
I can control my heart of thanksgiving. It’s important to be thankful in ALL things. Even what seems to not make sense. I am thankful that God hears my cries, understands my desires, and He answers them according to His plan and not mine. I am thankful that God is my healer, my creator, my judge, and my savior!
The position that we place ourselves in is important. Think about when you are sitting at a desk and not sitting up straight, later your back hurts. You easily could have prevented that. That is just a small analogy but I think it gets the point across, sometimes we have the ability to change our circumstances to help our situation. Are we setting ourselves up for success or failure?
It is important to not speak as if I am already defeated before the battle has been fought. If my prayers are not answered in a certain amount of time I find myself feeling as if it will never happen. But God’s timing is different than mine. My dad reminded me of the story of David and Goliath. He said, “Saul’s army was defeated before they ever fought the battle because they saw the circumstances as impossible. But the one who went forward, David, put aside the circumstances and had faith.” This is such a good point. So many of our battles in life and unfulfilled desires are often looked at as impossible and we already feel defeated before God has done His work. I am working on being positive during all circumstances to stand with God as He helps me defeat these battles.
Here is a scripture that I think is important to take note of. I spoke with my cousin, Austin, who graduated with his bachelors in Religious Studies at Westmont. I wanted to see his thoughts on this verse:
“And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.”
Austin pointed out the differences between contentment and happiness:
“Happiness can come and go with situations and is not a requirement for contentment.
And connected to that verse the “good” that Paul is talking about is usually different than our definition of “good”. To us good usually means comfort, easiness and getting what we want. But for God, goodness is growing in faith, trust, and delight in Jesus. He usually brings that about through seasons and circumstances that aren’t necessarily what we would call good but they are leading to goodness.”
God works all things together for good. We must NOT interpret it as just making a wish and God granting everything. Which is often how we can interpret it, I am guilty of this.
We are called to glorify God. Scriptures do not say to only glorify Him when our prayers are answered. But in all circumstances.
So let’s break it down into a list of questions to ask ourselves:
Our desires don’t stop. The moment one is fulfilled we will then move on to our next desire. If we are not investing fully into our relationship with God, we will always feel empty. We must remember our value and worth is ultimately in Jesus, not in our successes, our relationships, our family, our job, or our health. All of these things are good, and add to who we are, but our worth and value comes from Him.
Let’s work together to take action on what we should change, trusting God in the areas we cannot control, and glorifying Him through all circumstances.
Thank you for reading,