i am growing

I am growing. And I guess sometimes I’m hard on myself when I don’t see the results of where I want to be, but I have to realize that some things start small. But right now I’m learning a lot about where my identity is found.

My identity is not wrapped up in someone else’s approval.

My identity is not wrapped up in my job occupation, my clothing, my relationship, my family, my social media…

Sometimes the silliest things can even confuse us on where our identity lies.

“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.”

Jeremiah 1:5 

So here is a challenge…ask yourself, where has my identity been placed lately? Is that truly my identity? Is it within social media, my job, my grades, my relationship?

Let’s talk about social media…

Social media can be a great tool. It can be a way to market, communicate, maintain relationships, start new friendships, encourage, and so much more. But social media can also encourage comparison, insecurity, jealousy, identity issues and that is the part that is difficult.

Social media is really just a lot of highs and a few lows here and there. So we should remember that it doesn’t represent us as a whole.

And your “ratio” doesn’t matter. At the end of the day, God doesn’t really care who is following you on social media, He cares more if you are following Him. This is just a silly representation of how sometimes even the small things can get us wrapped up in a world of confusion in who we are.

I think sometimes we can get so focused on silly things which makes us believe we have to prove ourselves to others. But I’m thankful God made me, me. I’m happy being me and I really love when you are you! And I know God does too.


He created us with minds and hearts of creativity, but He didn’t create us to compete with others to try to prove our creativity.

God didn’t create us for Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, Pinterest. He created us to bring Him glory, and if through our social media we are able to bring Him glory, then go ahead and do that. But don’t forget that He didn’t create you with just a highlight reel.

No matter how many followers you have, no matter how many likes you get, no matter how many friends unfollow/follow you, or however many comments you receive or don’t receive, Jesus loves you immensely. No matter how many boys or girls “slide” into your DMs or how many people respond to your stories, God love’s you regardless.

Your identity is not wrapped up in other man’s approval, but in HIS approval.

“See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know him. Dear friends, now we are children of God, and what we will be has not yet been made known. But we know that when Christ appears, we shall be like him, for we shall see him as he is.”

1 John 3:1-2

So now switching from finding our identity in social media, maybe some of you will relate to the following…

It’s simple for us to all say “my Identity is in Him!” But then to realize our identity is sometimes spread thin in a whole lot of different places in our life, like our job, family, bank account, and relationships. When we are honest with ourselves where we are finding our identity, this is when God can begin to re-enter the center of our lives.

Maybe you’ve noticed your identity has been placed in your boyfriend or girlfriend and when they move, you move…I challenge you to let go of having them be the center and let God take that space in your heart. This does not mean you have to call it quits, it means refocusing your hearts position, kinda like recalibrating your heart.

Maybe you’ve noticed that you are finding your identity in your job and when affirmation is not coming your way, you feel absolutely defeated. When in reality, God is calling you to much more than just affirmation from others. I challenge you to do everything in your occupation for God alone, and watch as your heart begins to shift to no longer worry about others affirmation, but you will gain a confidence that you are glorifying Him through your work.

“Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men,”
Colossians 3:23

Maybe you have been finding your identity within your education. You find that you are seeking your worth within your G.P.A, and tirelessly wanting to prove to yourself you can do it. I challenge you to let go of the need to be perfect academically but surrender it to God and ask Him to create in you His identity and all work done for His glory.

Maybe your identity is so mixed up, that you’ve been finding it within your weakness. You have been pegging yourself as a failure or forgotten. Your mental health isn’t good right now and that’s all you can see yourself as. I challenge you to remind yourself how HE created you, and loves you.

Maybe you have found your identity to be based on your looks, clothing or makeup. And when those few extra pounds are dropped or gained, you feel your identity shifting with it. Maybe that pimple that pops up on your face has the ability to change your confidence. I challenge you to remember who God created you to be and the worlds definition of beauty is not His.

Our identity is not in the Bible App streaks. The “perfect weeks” does not make our identity in Christ stronger or less than. Our identity in Christ is not merely within an apps analytics but in the eyes of Jesus.

Our identity is not within our boss’ mind. Our identity is not within the partnerships or subscribers. Our identity should not be founded upon politics or the actions of others. Our identity is not founded by the approval of our fathers or mothers. Our identity is not founded upon the success of our business or the minds of our friends. Our identity is not found in the guy we love or the girl we care strongly about. Our identity is in HIM.

“Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. 2 Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. 3 For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God.”

Colossians 3:1-3

Our identity should be in Christ. So if you’ve found your identity spread thin lately, and you read this and feel it applies to where you are, let’s challenge each other to find our identity in our creator. HE knows who we are, let’s allow Him to remind us who He created us to be.

I hope that this is encouraging to you. And if you don’t relate to this, I guarantee you will at some point in your life, or you’re close to someone who relates to this a lot.

Praying for you as you recalibrate your hearts, as I too recalibrate mine. We are growing.

Thank you for reading,

Tay Ruth

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