Ways to Conquer the Need to Rush

Lately my heart has been reminded to slow down and be thankful. I’ve also been thinking a lot about “living in the moment.” I’m not very good at that.

I remember when it was my first year of college and for some reason I felt a rush to figure out what God’s plan was for my life.

I needed to know, I had to know, at least I thought.

I pressured Luke to tell me a time frame for marriage. Haha, he was not prepared for that. He told me that we weren’t quite there yet.

I felt rushed. I thought I had to have the next 5-10 years figured out. If I didn’t, then what would happen? What if I didn’t plan it and then 5-10 years down the road I wasn’t where I thought I’d be?

“I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. 12 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. 13 I can do all this through him who gives me strength.”
Philippians 4:11-13 (Apostle Paul’s thank you letter to Philippi, setting a great example).

Then as we got closer to a time frame where marriage was in our conversations, I felt the rush to get engaged. I had to get there.

Then I got engaged, and at times I’ve caught myself thinking “I just want to be married already!”

But when will this chasing end? Will I be content where God has placed me right now?

When I get married will I then be in a rush to my next goal?

It’s one thing to pursue goals, and it’s another thing to find yourself constantly wishing you were in the next season or step in life.

Not being content where you are looks a lot like running down a hill fast with your head over your toes…you know what I’m talking about? You start to lose control because you’ve lost focus on how to actually get to the place you’re headed.


Throughout my 22 years of life, I have found myself asking these questions:

How can I be content if I’m suffering?

How can I be content when I’m not in a place I want to be?

How can I be content when I’m waiting?

How can I be content when I’m genuinely not content?

This season that I’m in is the only time I’ll be in it. Why am I in such a rush to get to the next place? How do I begin to accept and be content with where I am?

Well, first, acknowledge it. I’m learning that if we don’t recognize we are doing it, others around us may? And also, check with yourself. Are you thankful for where you are right now?

Acknowledge that there is no need to rush to get to the next place.

Second, pray. Ask God to give you a heart of contentment. Contentment looks a lot like thankfulness. It’s not just giving up and surrendering, it’s being thankful for the now.

Third, spend time in His word. You will see that you are going through this season as a bridge to where you are headed, and you don’t want to rush it. Instead of seeking change in your circumstance, seek Him. He can make your perspective change within your circumstances making it more bearable, more enjoyable, and give peace.

Sometimes we are influenced by the world around us, telling us what the next step in life is, but that can take away from where God has you now.


“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will.”
Romans 12:2

Questions to think about:

This thought had me thinking a lot today, and I’m praying whether you are going through this right now, or you have, or will, you would be encouraged.

I don’t want to be caught up so much in my circumstances that I’m not seeking Him and thanking Him for where I am.

“Those who seek the Lord lack no good thing.”
Psalm 34:10b

So as Paul set a great example of being content and joyful in his “current circumstances,” even when the circumstances weren’t good, let us too set examples to those around us. Whether you are in a season where it’s mediocre, a joyful season, a difficult one, or just in an “in-between” season, let us be content in Him, not seeking to rush our lives to the next step, but build our path to where we are headed.

I challenge you to read Philippians.
Read more about Paul’s thanksgiving towards his dear friends, and the challenge he gave them through this letter. 💛 Philippians is only 4 chapters so it’s an easy read. If you are struggling with what to read during your quiet time, this one is a good one. If you like to go by a plan, here is one, Philippians- Choosing Joy. 

As always, I enjoy hearing from you and praying for you.

Thank you for reading,

Tay Ruth

*All  photos by : Kim 

One response to “Ways to Conquer the Need to Rush”

  1. Kathryn Mader says:

    Excellent words of wisdom. This can work in the reverse, too. When we get older, we may catch ourselves saying, Oh, if I were only 25 again. Or, I sure miss the season of my life when I was a young mother, etc. So absolutely contentment is the key to enjoying every day the Lord gives us, no matter in which season of life we find ourselves. I enjoy reading your blog so much 🙂

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